Hair growth

I have always desired long hair. I didn’t even care if it was healthy or even mine, as long as it was long, I was happy. So you can only imagine when I finally cut off my relaxed hair, how difficult it was to accept and love my hair for what it was. It took several years to grow it out…several slow years…and finally I grew it out. Here’s how:

Patience: I wish this was sold in stores, but sadly it’s not. In a world where we seem to value instant gratification, waiting is something we rarely tolerate. But when it comes to growing hair, accepting the fact that its going to take time, is key.

Love: Love your hair. Accept it for what it is in all of its glory. Whether its completely unruly and wild and you get the side eye for it, or you can comb through it..easily…with a regular comb; love it! Show it endless love and it will love you back.

Care: Drink more water….good. Now drink some more. Find a great moisturizer that loves your hair and that your wallet loves too. Get a tri—well…still working on this part, but yes, get a trim even a “dust” so that you can get rid of split ends. Experiment with protective styles that won’t put strain on your hair; but beware: some protective styles if left in too long will breed something horrible in your hair.

These are just a few tips for hair growth! The picture in this post is not the length of my hair now, but shows my hair growth from when I first started my journey in 2009! And also shows how the shrinkage is real!

me 2009 This first picture is from 2009 when I had a relaxer and my hair was STUCK at this length. I hardly ever trimmed it either, the ends were severely damaged.

The pictures below are from 2014. I decided to experiment with a few Carol’s Daughter products…Hair Milk to be specific and I couldn’t believe how long it was!!!


Enjoi your hair journey!!!


Miracle product helped my hairline!!!

I love conditioner…so much that I use it everyday as a styling product…it moisturizers my hair, leaves it soft, and controls the “overpuffiness” that I battle with. So naturally when I received a new product sample to try, CLEAR Scalp and Hair Therapy Conditioner, I used it everyday! I also used its additional products, the 7 day cream and the hair mask pictured below


What I expected were products that would nourish and moisturize my very dry hair…what I got on top of that was growth at my hairline! I had to take before and after pictures to prove it!

The picture on the left was taken a few months ago and the one on the right was taken last night…after many years of pulling and relaxing my hair my hairline was yes…receding. However I’m happy to say the CLEAR hair line helped me to grow it back!
You can buy this product at Safeway an Walgreens…I’m sure it’s sold at most major stores.

Try it and enjoi


What is in your hair products???


Do we really know what we are putting on our hair? Sure we can pronounce some words on the ingredients list, but honestly some contents require me to sound them out. While some long winded ingredients in hair products may not be necessarily bad, some definitely are.

Another issue with ingredients we put into our hair is the presence of alcohols. Now while some of you would love for a glass of wine to come along in a packaged deal with your hair products, this of course is not the same alcohol I am talking about. The alcohols in many beauty products that are damaging are found in certain hair sprays or gels. Those which range from Propyl alcohol and SD alcohol are drying and potentially damaging to natural black hair. Essence magazine interviewed Curly Nikki (an amazing blogger–check her out) about alcohols in hair products. Here is the interview below, but you can also find it at

“My new favorite conditioner has alcohol right at the top of the ingredients list. I’m a new natural, but I do know that alcohols are on my avoid list. Are all alcohols bad or drying? 

CURLYNIKKI’s RESPONSE:  Simply put… no. All alcohols are not created equally. Fatty alcohols provide an emollient effect, and bind water and oil to give our favorite conditioners their slip and creaminess. They can act as emollients which are known to make hair (and skin) softer. Here’s a list of fatty alcohols, which are okay to use in hair products:

  • Behenyl alcohol
  • Cetearyl alcohol
  • Cetyl alcohol
  • Isocetyl alcohol
  • Isostearyl alcohol
  • Lauryl alcohol
  • Myristyl alcohol
  • Stearyl alcohol
  • C30-50 alcohols
  • Lanolin alcohol

Cetyl and/or Sterayl alcohols are present in most of my favorite products.

Alcohols to avoid include the ‘short chain’ ones- SD alcohol, SD alcohol 40, Alcohol denat, Propanol, Propyl alcohol and Isopropyl alcohol. You’ll often find these in hair sprays and gels not marketed for our hair type, but stay vigilant!”

I love Curly Nikki’s informative response because when I personally saw any type of alcohol in a product I would run the other direction, when little did I know some alcohols are actually good for our hair!

Another link if you ever want to further investigate what is in your hair products is on the Treasured Locks website in an article titled “Know Your Ingredients”,

This helpful tool breaks down the most common hair product ingredients, what it is used for and how it affects your hair.

Read and enjoi!

New product!!! (well for me at least)


I have to admit…I have been reluctant to use this product for a few reasons. It looks like hair gel from the container and not that I am against using hair gel but they either literally whiten my hair or make it crunchy, and I did not want to spend $11.99 at Target if I could just go to Sally for $3 for Eco Style Gel. I wanted a different result; I was hoping for a product that softened like a conditioner but could be used at a styling product too.

Well never judge a book by its cover! I LOVE IT!!

I love the way it feels light, but still moisturizes the way that my conditioners do! And it passes my smell and ingredients test! Recently I have been using conditioners that are meant to be washed out as leave in’s because I love what conditioner does to my hair, however some of these conditioners are slightly heavy and cannot be mixed with other products. I am very happy to have tried this product!

The ingredients are: Organic mango extract, organic slipper elm, organic marshmallow root, organic lemongrass, cetyl alcohol, behentrimonium methosulfate, citric acid, phenoxyethanol and natural fragrance.

You can buy this product at Target, Whole Foods and

Hair Staple: Clear Scalp and Hair Therapy Ultra Shea Balm


I am obsessed with two products for my hair. One of them is Clear Scalp and Hair Therapy Ultra Shea Balm. I happened to get a free sample of this product and I thought, why not it’s free and I might as well try it.  The texture of the balm is similar to vaseline; its easy to work with, soft and clear.  Every product I have ever put on my hair first gets a smell test. If the product passes my smell test I move onto looking at the texture of it and then reading the ingredients. I will not hesitate to put a product right back on the shelf if smells funky; even if it gets high ratings by others. There are in fact many popular products out there, but honestly the smell of some of them have me running in the other direction.

The ingredients test is another deal breaker for me. If I see CERTAIN types of alcohols or strange ingredients equivalent to formaldehyde, I also run.

Wonderfully enough this balm passed both of my tests!

I like to use this product along with a leave in conditioner and I use it on either damp hair or on dry hair to add in moisture to the ends and to the scalp. With this product, a little goes a long way and I had to learn that the hard way when I put a little too much and couldn’t touch my hair without a handful of grease residue that trailed behind.

This product would be great on various hair types, and would be great for those transitioning from relaxed to natural to smooth new growth.

The ingredients for this product include: Petrolatum, Mineral Oil, Paraffin, Lanolin Wax, Fragrance (Parfum), Elaeis Guineensis (Palm) Oil, Butyrospermum Parkii (Shea) Butter, Triticum Vulgare (Wheat) Germ Oil, Tocopheryl Acetate, Prunus Amygdalus Dulcis (Sweet Almond) Oil, Hydrogenated Coconut Oil, Helianthus Annuus (Sunflower) Seed Oil, Glycine Soja (Soybean) Oil, Argania Spinosa Kernel Oil, Aloe Barbadensis Leaf Juice.

I have several free samples and haven’t had to buy this product yet but have seen it for sale at Walmart and online at

Try it and enjoi.

natural . puffy. hair


This is me. Natural. Puffy Hair. I am not a natural hair expert, although I am an expert with my own natural hair so I thought I would start a blog and share my hair journey. I’ll start from the beginning…I had natural hair up until the age of eight and it was shoulder length in braids; until I begged and pleaded with my mom to allow me to get a relaxer. Mind you we were living in Korea at the time and so therefore, who knows what level of relaxer was on my precious head, but goodness it was straight afterwards. However as the years went by, my hair started to break off. Finally when I was in high school, I was wearing braids so much that I was able to grow out almost all of my relaxer. But what did I do??? I went to my old hair stylist (who is wonderful, and I will write about him at a later time, because he has a book out) and I told him I wanted a curl. For those who don’t know, a “curl” is like a perm used for Caucasian hair, but on my hair it thinned out and stretched out my natural waves. And while my chemically attained curls looked great, it was simply another chemical. Why, why, why after successfully growing out my relaxer did I want to put in another chemical??? Because young black girls are under the impression that we should not love and embrace our hair but instead manipulate it, so that it can be more “manageable”. So I wore a cute style of a bob and honestly was sick of it after a year.

Fast forward.

After finding the man of my dreams, getting married, and having our first child I realized I wanted to grow out my relaxer AGAIN. This was about 2009. So I did. And without telling my husband really what I was doing, I stayed up late every night and wet and conditioned my hair and created two strand twists that I would wrap into bantu knots and go to sleep, unravel it the next morning and I would have a wavy look that suited my new growth and blended with my relaxed hair. After 3 months of doing this I also gradually cut my own hair and then eventually my natural new growth was long enough to wear by itself so I chopped off the rest of my hair.

And then…after all this work what did I do again…chemical curl….WHY!?!

Surpisingly this time around (since I did it myself) it didn’t affect my hair that much because I didn’t leave it on long enough for it to do much damage. And again I repeated the two strand twist out then chopped it off again. After all of this notice exhibit “A” at the top of this blog and this is my natural hair combed out with only CLEAR Scalp and Hair Therapy Ultra Shea Balm.

I am proud that I eventually grew out my hair to this length and that it is chemical free!!! I’m also excited to share so many more stories with you as well as product reviews that have worked in my hair and of course ones that have NOT.